“The need to clarify, explain, or justify oneself in personal relationships, is always self-serving.” Mike Dooley shared this recently on his daily post.
There is certainly a time to explain oneself, to defend one’s position. But so much of it is unnecessary waste of energy, merely trying to “cover our ass.” There are so many times when we merely need to “offer our deed to oblivion”…verbal or otherwise…and then practice the wisdom of the Beatles—“Let It Be.” So much needless disputation amounts only to egos sparring with one another for dominance, each insistent on being right. And, of course there is no better example of this than in the nonsense which has created this current deadlock in Washington.
And, as is always the case, I speak from experience. So much of my life has been spent in trying to convince others that I was “right”, in belief and in behavior. I have now given up. But, having given up and living with ambivalence, I have firm confidence that there is a Right that graces the universe and that in some faint fashion I am part of that process.